Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.   

Hebrews 11:1                                                                       

 I read somewhere that our children make a habit of living down to our expectations.  If we believe our child is incapable of accomplishing this or that task and let our words or actions communicate that belief to our child, their expectations of themselves often mirror our expectations.  If a child believes he can’t do something, then he can’t.

While this principle is important for all parents to remember, it is particularly important for the parents  of a child with a disability or chronic medical condition.  It is easy to get caught up in the “can’ts.”  He is 14 months old and he can’t sit up yet.  She is 3 years old and can’t walk.  He can’t play tag with the other children without suffering an asthma attack.  No doubt most of us have encountered at least one physician or other professional(if not dozens) who has warned us, ” Your child will never be able to . . .” 

Our job is not to help our child to see his limits, but to help him see his potential. We need to be there to help them learn what they can  accomplish.  Only God truly knows what our child will or will not accomplish.

I will never forget going to a workshop and hearing another mother introduce herself by saying, “My son is death-blind and I’m glad.”  It seemed an odd statement at first until I heard her story.  When her son was first born, she was bombarded by professionals who all told her that her son would be a vegetable.  But they were all wrong and “he’s just deaf-blind!”  If she had listened to all the can’ts, she would have put him into the  institutional setting the professionals were recommending.  Instead she now has a son who enjoys school and playing with his friends in the neighborhood and all-in-all enjoying a pretty normal childhood.

Lord, use me to help my child reach his highest potential. Keep me from becoming a stumbling block to his progress. Thank you that you love him even more than I do and have a wonderful plan for his life.

Amen

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